Fighting An Endless Battle

 It's been ages since I came here to exercise and feel my emotions.  My life stances have changed. My children have changed.  My spouse has changed.  Even I have changed. 
My children are 9 and 10 years old right now.  They are exploring the definition of who they are, who they like, who they identify with and who they think they are.  And they get to do this with immeasurable support from Addy and I, and get to figure themselves out with all of their parental support so they don't feel weird or out of place.  
I can't tell you the number of times I've had people try to tell me the best way to parent my ADHD/ASD/childhood depression and anxiety driven child.  
They don't know or understand her. Her sister is more in tune with her ASD issues than any teacher or aid or attendant.  I'm furious her concerns are being considered exaggerated or unnecessary. Just because of ASD, ADHD and or OCD. 
She's being bullied daily.  Despite the school's zero tolerance for bullying.  My child is reacting and acting out because she's being bullied every day. Recess, lunch or whatever attendants are not doing their job. Her biggest bully, Arkavion was seated behind her during an assembly meeting.  And she took in NO information because of being too worried the person behind her that has tormented  her for years, was going to do something.  
I need my child cared for, despite how complicated it may be, she deserves better than what she's been given over the last 3 years.  I know she isn't easy to work with but she deserves an equal  chance and sitting her 3 year long bully right behind her during an assembly was just lazy and disrespectful. My child deserves more consideration than that.  Give her a chance and she'll surprise you. Sit her long time bully behind her because no one could be bothered to give a damn about who sat by who and my kid ends up crying her eyes out from frustration on the ride home.  

I'll bet her bully didn't have a mental breakdown from being sat by the kid he likes to bully.

The kid he likes to bully, my daughter had a problem with it. Told teachers and aids and nothing was done.  She was told she was exaggerating and nothing would happen during the assembly.  

Mr. Principal....we both know better.   And honestly, this is uncalled for. I'm doing anything and everything I can to get my child adjusted to school and its setting and yet she still has people tease and taunt her in a school that doesn't tolerate bullying.  What am I missing?  She's always the problem and never the victim.  She lashes out after being bullied or taunted too much and you make that HER problem.  

Not only is that insensitive, but it's also unfair.  Help me out Mr. Principal.  I know she isn't perfect but she's the only one to be consistently in trouble for lashing out.  I know my child, she isn't lashing out for no reason and I'm tired of her being the problem instead of the victim and trying to explain this hypocrisy to her.  If the hypocrisy continues....

You get to tell her why it's happening and give her proper justification for it.  I'm tired of this.  And it just keeps getting worse.